When to Disclose, When to Smile and Nod

The backstory

When Little Green was just four months old, I left my full-time job to be a stay at home/freelancing mom.

It seemed like the right thing to do at the time – I was pumping at work (in a “library” room without a door) and she wasn’t really taking well to the bottle, my husband was her full-time caregiver and wasn’t happy and also couldn’t get his own work done, and I was just really wanting to be home with my baby.

Then she started missing milestones, got a diagnosis of cerebral palsy, and changed my entire path.

But you know this, probably, by reading my blog. It’s the story I tell often.

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Let’s Talk About Money, Honey – Part One

Money, Honey

Let’s talk about money. What’s more fun than that? (I started this post before the glimmer of hope that was the job interview I had last Wednesday, but not much has changed, really.)

I was absolutely brought up to think that money discussions were private and not to be shared. That money is shameful. That you should only spend your money on certain specific items and not others. But I am going to say fuck that. I’m not asking for help, and I’m not asking for pity, but I am going to try and share with you some thoughts on a topic that I was taught not to discuss. Because thoughts about money consume me. And this is my fucking blog so I’m going to write about it.

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